Combatting Hair Loss for Women

I’ve had a running joke with my friends about Maude. Occasionally she will pop up in photos and I’ll tag her. Some days she is extra visible. Yes. Maude is my bald spot.

Okay, it’s not a bald spot per se, but the hair by that part of my hairline is definitely thinner and sparser than the rest of my head. This leads to photos where my face and head ends up looking oddly shaped. It’s just not cute.

I’ve been searching for SO MANY methods to solve this. Then, I watched this¬†YouTube of AlexandrasGirlyTalk on her postpartum hair loss. The comments were flooded with advice. I realized that I wasn’t the only one who was struggling with this!

There are SO MANY different methods for hair growth that I want to try out, but here are a few tips I’ve tried or am about to try that you can give a try! Say that three times fast haha.

  1. Don’t put so much strain on your hair.

This means don’t put it up in tight up-dos like buns and ponytails. I have, oddly, worn my hair up everyday for basically more than the last 12 years of my life. My hair is also thin. When so much strain is put on the strands, it causes breakage and receding.

What you can do to combat this is to wear your hair down. Another option, if you must wear your hair up, is to wear it lower, or in looser hairstyles. You can do this by transferring the strain to other thicker parts of your hair, and utilizing bobby pins and clips.

2. Biotin and Hair, Skin, and Nails Supplements. 

Making sure you get the proper nutrition you need is extremely important because your hair is an indicator as to how healthy you are sometimes. If you eat healthier, your hair will be healthier and more will grow. If you aren’t getting the nutrients you need, then your hair and nails may grow less, or be thinner.

However, we’ll just go over the shortcut of taking these supplements.

Biotin (aka Vitamin B7 or H) supplements are readily available. You might have seen the SugarBearHair or Nature’s Bounty vitamins recently. Most dosages targeted to hair growth will have 5,000 mcg, but some like the Nature’s Bounty “Biotin” supplements are 10,000 mcg. The adequate intake is 30 mcg/day for an adult, by the way (!!!).

It has to be said that there is no real evidence that this would help most people, because most people do not have Biotin deficiencies. Our body needs very little Biotin, and enough is usually found in our diets. Doctors may prescribe this to people with conditions like Alopecia (for example)–but this is rare.

There are no known negative side-effects for taking too much Biotin, as there is no “too-much” that has been specified. If you are pregnant or breastfeeding, check with a doctor.

I use Nature’s Bounty Hair, Skin, and Nails supplement and I do feel like my hair has been growing faster, as I looked at my leg hair growth, which was more measurable. Also, I don’t like to eat gummies (I like the pill form instead) because there really is no reason to ingest all that extra sugar and food coloring. However, I think that you can also just eat more foods naturally containing biotin.

Also, this is water-soluble, and I suggest you drink more water with it. People have claimed that they started to break out after taking biotin, so it’s recommending to drink more water, or discontinue use if the breakouts are too intense.

3. JASON Thin-to-Thick Hair Elixer

The jury is still out on this one, but this is a serum you apply to the balding spot and it gets good reviews. It smells good, but the instructions are to leave it on at night and rinse it out in the morning, which is not always convenient.

There are lots of DIY home methods for applying things to the scalp, so I would suggest digging around the internet and YouTube for people’s methods they believe in.


What To Do While Waiting For Hair to Become Luscious 

  1. Get a ‘Hair Powder’

In the YouTube video, Alexandra mentioned dabbing in a powder that matched her hair color into the parts of her scalp that were showing. The effect was great, but you can level up!

I read about how celebrity hairstylists and makeup artists fill in the hairlines of celebrities for the red carpet (they also don’t have perfect hairlines, people!). There are powders specifically for hairlines. One of the brands recommended is Toppik. They come in many shades. Another product that is great is by Kristofer Buckle. He had a makeup line that sold out, but the idea was a brow enhancer, that was a pomade then a powder to set.

2. Find a hairstyle that works.

This is a really underestimated tool. I was not expecting it to make a huge difference, but I got a blowout one time, then I got my hair cut and styled, and WOW. You could barely see my bald spot, Maude, or at the very least were not focused on it at all.

I just didn’t pay much attention to how I was pushing Maude front and center when I wore my hair in a bun, or I parted it a certain way.

I bought a heat-protectant spray and started to blow dry the hairs framing my face down (instead of randomly and ending up looking like Hagrid), and Maude was much easier to cover up, or at least appear more demure.


So there you go! At the end of the day, hair loss or thinning is natural and nothing to be ashamed about. These are all easy ways to feel better and more confident, but you are beautiful with or without a Maude!

Curated: A List of the Most Influential Books in Overcoming My Social Anxiety

Overcoming social anxiety was not an easy road for me. It took years for me to be able to go out into public or be in close proximity with people and not have my hands sweat or heart race. Anyone who has had some experience with this knows how challenging it can be. It was excruciating having a personality that craved social interaction and validation, and yet was paralyzed in fear when around people.

During that time, I spent a lot of time looking for resources that would help me to get out of this so-called personal hell that I had created for myself. I mean, it’s not like I was spending that time with human beings, so I had a lot of time to myself.

As I’ve found, it’s not so much what book you read, but reading the right book at the right time. Here’s a list I’ve compiled of the books that made the most impact on me and helped me to change my physical reality:

  1. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.


My father always talked about how taking a Dale Carnegie Sales Training Course changed his life. I believe I have multiple copies of this book now–you could say it’s a staple in our home.

This book is chock-full of advice from an expert in people. It covers topics for basically every area in life. And most importantly: it’s simple. A key in the book is, “Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.” Become interested in people. It’s simple, and it works.

More importantly, this gave me faith that I could one day be successful at communicating with people. It gave me hope that people could like me one day. The tools and techniques, I think, are mainly to bolster your confidence in your interactions with others. I felt like I had more control, and so I had more confidence. It made something that was frightening to me into something formulaic. Something that you didn’t have to naturally understand to implement and see results.

This is a classic, so you can get it at any library. You can look at quotes on Goodreads here, and check out the Table of Contents here.


2. The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy.

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I highlighted and underlined this book like no other. I’d say this was Carnegie’s predecessor for me. I don’t know when I started believing that our mind has the most weight in how much we enjoy our lives, but this book was a big contributor to it. Not all of our problems can be solved by our mind, but a lot more physical changes can occur than you would expect.

Belief is a powerful tool, and the fact is (that I will not go into detail on here) that there are all kinds of “placebo effects” in us and around us that have shown us how powerful our minds are.

This book helped me to believe that I could do a lot just in my mind. Which was great, because I didn’t want to be around people. Haha. But eventually, my mindset became my physical reality and I got there.

A big part of this book is autosuggestion–getting your subconscious to work through to solutions. You have the power to change your thoughts and your life–and this ISN’T woo-woo stuff. This is real and it can change your life.

This gave me a formula for HOW to utilize my subconscious so that it was working for me, not against me. It showed me simple tools to program my subconscious like repeating statements that I wanted to be true etc.

It took me from knowing that I could change, to REAL and IMPLEMENTABLE as to how to do so. Easily, the most transformative of the bunch.

For Amazon, click here. For Goodreads quotes, click here.

3. Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu.

There are a lot of “life lessons” in here, but there was really only one point that for some reason got burned into my brain that made the most impact on me out of anything (for some reason).

That was: Be Natural.

Yes, that is it. I was just so tired of thinking about every move I made, even every breath I took around people. That takes up a lot of energy! I was just sick of it and felt,¬†you know what–literally anything would be better than this. People can think I’m weird and reject me and talk about me and all that wouldn’t even be bad if I had a few friends and could just stop putting so much energy into caring.

I decided I would reprogram myself to notice whenever I had an inclination to do something–maybe it was touching a leaf, saying hello, something else simple like that–and I would do it. I had been so controlling over every little movement and action (it was really pretty neurotic) that I consciously would have to do this.

So basically, I went crazy and weird and things turned out great. Other things prepared me mentally, but this single thing is what drove the actions and behaviors that changed my life. Not into being a perfect person, but in just being able to live again.

Note: this picture is the book I read and recommend, simply because it’s easy to read and seems more accessible.

Check out the Table of Contents on Amazon here. Read quotes on Goodreads here .

These books are far from all the books that have helped me, but they are the most pivotal. They’re classics that you have to check out if you’re looking to improve your mindset and your life.